Awakening your inner child

Get in touch with her, rn.

I have had a lot of questions on the event that I have been advertising lately though it has been postponed due to some unforeseen circumstances. Many people were asking, “What exactly is an inner child?” So, since I got you all my ladies at heart and I promised to keep you in my writings this month, I will do so. The other gender, get me right, please, inner child thingy is not only female ๐Ÿคฃ, everyone has their inner child. Okay so, what exactly do I mean by this inner child thing? ๐Ÿค”
“A person’s supposed original or true self, especially when regarded as concealed in adulthood,” Google says.

It all takes some healing time…

Am sure now you understand why our theme had been awakening your inner child. If there is anything we can all long for, it is to be our true selves. The original us without any traumas, heartbreaks, disappointments, I mean, all that made you lose yourself. According to Health Psychology Consultancy, there are 7 inner child types, I will brief you on in this blog namely; the abandoned playful, spoiled, neglected, discounted, disconnected and fearful child.

You need to converse with her…

Abandoned Child feels very lonely, insecure and unwanted, and craves attention and safety; fears of abandonment accompany the adult person, even in relationships. Busy, divorced or separated parents are often the main reason for the child feeling unwanted and struggling with issues of abandonment.

Neglected Child shows itself in depressed, lonesome and withdrawn adults. Not having experienced much love and nurturing during childhood, the person doesnโ€™t know how to express it, and believes that they are unworthy of being loved.

Playful Child an often forgotten, healthy part of the creative adult personality that knows how to have spontaneous fun, and is relatively free of guilt and anxiety.

Spoiled Child shows up as impatient adults that tend to throw temper tantrums when immediate gratification of needs and wants isnโ€™t readily forthcoming.

Fearful Child needs to hear continuous affirmation and encouragement otherwise the adult is nearly always filled with anxiety and panic. As a child, the person received a lot of criticism from caregivers.

Disconnected Child manifests in the adult that cannot trust easily, and stays isolated and uninvolved; intimacy is a fearful and foreign experience, because the developing child never had the opportunity to learn what it means to be close to someone.

Discounted Child this child was treated as if they didnโ€™t exist and was made to feel invisible and generally ignored; in adulthood, self-belief and positive valuation is virtually absent, and the adult needs consistent loving attention and support to feel validated.

That’s all you can ever do for her…

Generally, you might feel you have one or more of these inner child and its perfectly okay. You can heal from all the inner child wounds. All you gotta do is listen to your inner child, accept her, validate her and value all the difficult emotions that emerge from taking time with her. So, awakening your inner child helps you to discover her, know how to embrace her and how to engage with her regularly. It might take a while for her to trust you completely but eventually you will get there. Simply trust the process.

This is the goal…

She has a voice, let her roar!

Celebrate the woman you are everyday!

Muted
She can’t let out a sound
Suppressed
Her voice can’t be heard
Victimised
She cries to be freed

Her cries get louder
They turn to a roar
She roars
They get shocked
She has a voice, let her roar!

She is every woman
A mother for her children
A wife to her husband
An executive in the boardroom
A slut in her sanctified bedroom
A colleague in the workplace
A friend to embrace
An aunt to confide in
A sister to cherish

Never underestimate her power
She can bring forth fruit
Nurture and nourish it
She is gifted in multiplication
All she touches gets plenty
She has a voice, let her roar!
That’s the only way to see her capacity

This piece was first published in the She Roars Newsletter Volume 1 2019

Let’s meet in celebration of womanhood!

Women; precious jewels!

Hello August, I have been waiting for you. Your windiness reminds me that, there is always a time to shed off all that is dead and unwanted from your system. It mighty be a little dusty but the bigger picture is all we gotta focus on; shedding off ๐Ÿ˜Š.

May August offer you the best in all your endeavours…

As we celebrate women’s month in South Africa, I want every woman to remember that they are important. We been labeled as the weaker vessels even in the Bible but we all know how strong we are. We can stand terrible period cramps, endure excruciating labour pains, and raise a whole human being. The most exciting part of a woman, is the ability to multiply all she touches. Amazing, right?

Women can embrace every situation…

Each time you wanna doubt yourself, remember that a world without women would be dead. So, it’s high time, ladies please, we value and embrace who we are. Have the ability to stand for what you believe in, go for your dreams and never let anyone suppress you.

Yes, Sisi, you can!

Watch out for red flags wherever you are. It’s time not to settle for anything less. I feel nudged to talk about a lot of things that affects my gender, but today I will end here. Your take home is if you are a woman reading this, you are blessed beyond measure, tap into your greatness and enjoy the wonderful gift of life. And if you are a man reading this, take this month to appreciate every woman in your life, shower them with so much love and make it a daily habit even after this month.

Know your position and stick to what you deserve…

Ooops before, I leave, ladies in and around South Africa, let’s all meet this monthend to celebrate this exciting women’s month. Check out the flyer below, register by clicking on this Google form ๐Ÿ‘‡๐Ÿพ๐Ÿ‘‡๐Ÿพ๐Ÿ‘‡๐Ÿพ https://forms.gle/i5SpaJTwRaYxV6do9

Don’t miss out, we got some gifts for you… too..

Till we meet, next time, I love you all โฃ๏ธ