Thank you readers for your answers to my questions on Part 1 of this sequel. (Now I know and I will treat my relationship with current wife wisely, much love to you all.)
What then transpired…
After my response, I decided to ask more questions because closure was truly needed. Here is our mini chat:
[5/6, 11:07] BM: So iwewe wat did you think I was after from u?
[5/6, 11:46] CW: i dont know thats why i had to look for your number and ask thot u have staff to say just like the last time
[5/6, 11:48] BM: Not at all, if i had anything to say I would have looked for your number 😊.
[5/6, 11:48] CW: cool then
[5/6, 11:54] BW: For the record I dont have anything against you neither at your man. I made peace with my soul and accepted what happened.
[5/6, 11:57] CW: maybe you should know that too i have nothing against u since the day u spoke to m i guess u noticed the type of person i am i made a prayer to God funny i prayed for you instead of being mad or anything its life at the end of the day and Mwari zvake hawanzodhakwe
[5/6, 12:00] BM: Yaa and I respect you so much for that, you did what a lot of women would never do
Yes God is always faithful and thats one thing that made me move on. And all happens for a reason and purpose.
To summarise our small chat, I asked what she thought about my request to which she responded that she thought I had some burning issue to share with her since the last time we talked I had had something for her. So yea, when I was pregnant, still fighting for baby dad’s attention, we had this tense fight where he cursed my family. That didnt go down well with me and got me texting her, notifying her that I was carrying her man’s child. None of us was married to him by then. She congratulated me and wished me well. That was a huge surprise because I thought she would respond angrily, but instead we had a good conversation. But she went on to fight with her man, which got baby dad fuming furiously at me. This became another reason why he totally rejected me. Anyways such is life.
Back to our chat, I then told her that if I had had anything to tell, I would have done it directly like the first time. My sentiments at that moment were that she is insecure and still feels threatened by my existence. This got me concluding our conversation by telling her that I didn’t have anything against them. Much as I wanted to ask her why she wasnt pushing her man to support his child, I just felt it wasn’t my position to do so and let it pass. She then said she was also good with me and mentioned that God would not get drunk (let anyone down). So yea, I was glad she knows that, though I did not exactly understand context she meant it in. I acknowledged that and ended the conversation because God has been faithful to me since day one and I know he will forever be faithful, which is why I named my daughter Akatendeka.
So to all my married sisters out there, it’s always good to keep great relations with the “unfortunate” sisters, it doesn’t hurt to make sure your hubby’s kids are getting the child support they deserve. Never feel threatened by BM, she lost the battle 😉, you hold the throne.
Always take note of the red flags before marriage, marriage is not gambling. Of course people change but the fact that he had the guts to impregnate someone else while you are there, speaks volumes. Remember that child will grow, you will constantly be reminded of them so uzoba strong and keep affirming yourself that you hold the throne and shun all insecurities. Maybe one day BD will want to be with his blood, check if you be cool with that too. At the end of the day love conquers all, so maybe where there is love red flags dont matter, do they?