Lately, I’ve been stuck in a lazy loop, procrastinating like it’s my new hobby. I wake up with a long to-do list, but instead of tackling it, all I want to do is hit the snooze button and drift back to sleep. It’s a familiar cycle: I complete a task and feel a rush of excitement, but then I find myself sabotaging my productivity more often than not.
My schedule is usually jam-packed, but I’ve been trying to listen to my body. Unfortunately, that means I’ve accumulated a hefty backlog of work. Have you ever felt like you have all the time in the world, only to realize that time is slipping away? That’s exactly where I am right now, and I genuinely want to make a change.
Time isn’t on my side, and I need to tackle my pending tasks before the year slips away, leaving me with nothing to show for it. So, dear readers, I’m reaching out for your advice! What remedies do you have for overcoming laziness and procrastination? I’m eager to get back into focused mode ASAP because I don’t want to look back and see a year wasted. Let’s conquer this together!
You will realize the importance of the Econet $0.30 hour data bundle when all you’ve got left is a mere $0.36 in your bank account. It’s January, and for the past two years—this being the third—I’ve been experiencing a super dry spell during this month. Kutoshaya kobiri chaiko 🤦🏾♀️. I’ve been so broke that I can’t even manage to get myself a $1 WhatsApp bundle zvayo. In this era, you just need to stay connected on the internet— manje ndopandakaita kutsva.
This brokeness got me reminiscing about a time last year when I miraculously received $273 worth of airtime. To this day, I’m unaware where this much airtime came from— haa ndange ndakanaka team rangu. Sharing is caring, so I shared some of that airtime with friends, settled some debts through data purchases, and had so much data that I wish I had saved it. But well, matakadya kare haanyaradze mwana. Those are now just good memories.
I suck big time at handling finances, even though I get so much money my way. This year, I told myself I would do things differently, especially kune zvemari uku. I’ve enrolled in a virtual Financial Literacy class with Let’s Talk Personal Finances, led by Tarie and Clare. The group is called Fin Lit Besties. It’s a six-month course worth $165 ($15 registration fee and $25/month). I believe this investment will multiply tens of thousands fold. We’re just a few days into the class, but I’m already gleaning so much. Haa ndikuitirwa zvakanaka.
My journey to financial recovery…
I am so deliberate, intentional, and purposeful about having a good relationship with my money. Ayehwa mari ndotoitsvaga zvekudero, but hey, I spend it willy-nilly. I’m tired of all this hard work with nothing to show for it. Haa, this year, January is the last month I write a blog and fail to publish it on time because handina data zvaro. No mhani, I strongly refuse to be this broke ever, ever again! I’m doing all it takes— nditoitawo hanzi inonzi emergency fund. Imi kutaura kuno ndikawirwa nedambudziko ndinenge ndisina pekubata.
Payday seems so far away vasikana. Back to school has humbled me— apa ndichitori nemazi arrears 😂. I’m grateful that the head at my daughter’s school was understanding and allowed her to start school nepashoma pandakavabatisa. Apa gaya mu newcomer hake 😂😂😂. Haa, I vow to be paying cheroma advance from this moment and forever.
In 2025, haa, I’ll be clearing my debts, saving, and making some long-lasting investments. Handisi kuita zvekutamba, my relationship with money ikufanirwa kuswatanuka by fire, by force. Ndombozvida here zvekutambura, no mhani!!!
I will never be this broke ever, ever again. Watch this space!!!
Every Tuesday morning when my alarm rings at 6am, I get a WordPress reminder that it’s time to share a story on my blog. It’s been three good months ignoring that reminder because of a million EXCUSES… I love writing with a passion and it’s one thing that brings me so much fulfilment but well here I am for the I- don’t -no th time apologising to you my lovely Readers for starving you. I know you enjoy the tales so much and once again I promise to keep you satiated from the oasis of my story telling.
I honestly didn’t plan on what am going to share today but I just told myself, “You are going to write whether you are in it or not. NO MORE EXCUSES!” Yea, that really stuck in my thick skull and got my hand to mind coordination into action.
Someone commented on my consistency in some fitness group I am in on Whatsapp. The group was opened 6 weeks ago and all participants are on a quest to drop some calories. I have religiously updated all my working out and food intake in that group even when I cheat, I state how and why. So, just having someone appreciating how much I have been consistent got me thinking of all the other areas that I have stopped paying attention to because; I am less motivated, it’s not paying off, a lot is going on in my mind, my new job is taking all my time and creativity, single-parenting is taxing, bla bla bla… I mean just because of a million EXCUSES.
This thought struck a cord and I vowed to make a positive change towards all my excuses. Instead of excuses am going to execute so, am getting back on the drawing board and give myself another 6 week challenge, where am not only focusing on weight loss but a complete mindset shift and spreading my consistency to all the areas I had sabotaged.
So, by the way in the fitness group we were on a 6-week-intensive-weight loss journey. I have been so much longing to weigh 65kg since 2022 when I realised I had ballooned but from 78kg I got to 73kg. Sometime in February this year, I told myself I will get on working out and portion control in food intake and I dropped off to 68kg in 2 months. Then that’s when I came across this amazing platform which I joined on the 20th of April and the 6-week journey commenced on the 22nd of April up to the 2nd of June and I am now on 64kg. So, now am left with mantaining and toning up my body. I am super-excited, I did it 💃🏿.
Keep this spirit!
More on this journey will be shared in my upcoming blogs. Stay tuned❣️
Walking into a new chapter of my life with so much courage and brevity, letting go the past…
A few days ago, Tabitha turned a year older. It feels so good to grow up, to see each new day, to embrace all that it brings. No matter how hard it can be, I am forever grateful for this wonderful gift of lift. I still strive to be the best version of me. I can’t deny I am getting so much impatient with a lot of things in my life, I just feel there are so many delays. Well they say delay is not denial so, help me Lord to be a little more patient. When the time is right all will perfectly fall into place, I still believe.
My birthday started on a very bad note but my rising above spirit kept me afloat. I had bae putting up an unnecessary tantrum on me because I had checked on our plans for the day, it wasn’t nothing new, we do this frequently but on this day guess he got to be on his menses 😂. We had our squabble but I did not allow it to get to me instead I channelled my energy to cleaning up some new business joint. Y’all know Tabitha is a hustler so, another idea is being brewed.
As I thought I had had enough for the day, daddy dearest got me another unwelcome surprise. He started some negative talk which I sweetly silenced him by asking him to be the support system he is meant to be. I am glad he listened and we left each other on a somewhat good standing. It really felt like they had teamed up on me with bae but well no man whatsoever was gonna mess up my day.
I went for the cleaning spree which was so therapeautic, had two friends helping me out, Precy and Liz. After cleaning up we went for ice cream with Liz. It was the perfect birthday treat ever. I felt super relieved when we left the ice-cream joint. I got home to find my daughter waiting for a cake. I promised her to get one after the back to school hustle so, am already in debt in less than 10 days into the new year 😂.
It is what it is but am glad I made the most of a day I thought was going to be sombre. This new year added unto me will surely be remarkable, I can sense it all over and around me; that 6th sense, it never lies.
I come from a nation where almost everyone is in business. Majority of the youths are “entrepreneurs”. I quote because if we get to the literal meaning of the term, guess only a quarter fits in; but well, it is what it is. One thing that I have observed in my so many years of doing this entrepreneurship thingy is that most of the businesses suffer from stunted growth. There are so many factors to this but I just want to look at one area which has boggled me for a long time; which is how we tend to take advantage of each others’ small businesses.
Yea…
I mean when we walk into the bigger stores we never negotiate the prices for what we are interested in purchasing. We just pay the price silently but when I decide to support a fellow sister or brother, I treat them like am doing them a favour. Of course, many a time the small business is in dire need of any amount you offer but have you thought of how much you are inhibiting its growth by offering peanuts?
It’s this simple…
I have come to the realisation that when we are in business, we are all assisting each other. I have a product/service you need/want and vice versa. None of us should make each other feel like they are being taken advantage of. Negotiations are allowed but to a little extent; one can’t be explaining their pricing model over and over again. If you ain’t happy with what is being offered, move to the next seller and stop making others feel bad for stating their price. Funny thing you can purchase expensive stuff in well known stores so, why not respect the small businesses? We all want to grow and kindly understand the efforts we put in our work to give you satisfaction. You ain’t doing anyone a favour by choosing them to offer you services.
I can do it…
I pray that I also become a better supporter for other people’s businesses. From now on, I wanna walk into small businesses with utmost respect and be willing to pay the price as stated. I don’t want to be the reason why someone else’s business remains stuck on the same spot. They would rather suffer from all the unmentioned factors in this blog and not this one. We are in this together❣️
So, I decided to watch the Dahmer Monster: Jeffrey Dahmer story, a series on Netflix. I saw a couple of reviews on FB when it was termed satanic but I chose to watch it after I heard it was true crime. I thought I was going to see some eerie stuff but well it wasn’t that scary but of course, it got me thinking deeply of what kind of a world we are in.
Most of the things that happened there were before I was born and am thinking times have changed and there might be more of these heart rending incidents happening now. But the most striking part is when Jeff chose to be baptised so, the whole night I been thinking after all those gruesome murders, He repents and got baptised and gets access to Heaven, just like that. Of course, the human nature in me screams, “No maan! It cant be!” But well His ways are not our ways. If Jeff’s repentance was truthful he is dining with the angels and us judges on earth might end up rotting in hell for it is said, “Judge not.” Its easy to put sins on a scale but one thing I learnt is sin is sin. There isn’t first nor third degree sin. So, help me Lord.
Seeing this series made me realise its never too late to make a change. God loves you, nomatter how dirty you might feel; that step towards Him can make a difference. Nothing under the sun ever stays the same so, never hesitate to start afresh. Each new day given to you is an opportunity to start over and shine. It doesn’t matter that it’s year end and you haven’t accomplished much, you still have an opportunity to do it all as long as you are alive. Keep on pushing, keep on trying, you will get there.
As I continue celebrating my third decade on earth and my birthday month, I thought I should write about change. Change is a process that many of us are not flexible with. Personally, I struggle with changes. If I set my mind on something, it must go the way I have pictured it in my mind. There is no grey for me, its either black or white. This has taken a toll on my emotional well being because I get so much devastated and frustrated when faced with changes. Eventually, I adapt and adjust but after so much self-negotiations and analysis.
This is the right time to change for you
Every January of each new year, we are so much hyped talking of resolutions and new beginnings. How many of us have really followed through the change pattern? I will speak for myself, I have managed to do 50% of that which I have longed to transform in each year, ever since I started jotting down my resolutions when I was 13. So, it means in 16 years excluding this year which has just begun, writing down an average of 10 resolutions a year that gives me 160 resolutions and 80 of them have been ticked off the list for good. I hope I have done my math well because it took me a lot of revision to gain the B that I earned in mathematics at O’ level.
True beauty lies in transformation
My transformation rate hasn’t been so bad, I suppose. I strongly feel I need to up it to a 100% from this season going upwards. For 2022, I got 12 resolutions on my list which I have converted to smart goals. I strongly believe, I will be ticking all of them off the list because for the first time, I finally created my vision board and stuck it where I clearly see it and be reminded that I am on a goal-fulfilling mission. I am equipped with my change tools and everyday when I wake up, I remind myself that I need the change as I focus on my theme #METAMORPHOSIC 30. I am ready to show my beautiful wings from the ugly caterpillar that I have been for the past years.
Becoming a beautiful butterfly
Change is a process which requires your commitment to pull through. Set it in your mind, put it down in black and white, remind yourself constantly that you are meant to change and bound to. Its never too late to be that change you want to be. Even if you experience some relapses on your way to change, pick yourself up and continue. You only fail yourself if you quit evolving. The world will surely be a better place if we all yearn to be our better then best versions of us.
Tales Of Tabitha 