The last moment for every living being

Death is inevitable, and it makes life precious. We are born to die at some point. No one can ever say no when it heeds its call. The saddest part is we do not know when the dark cloud of death pours on us. What will end us remains a mystery.

So, shall it be…

Each time I hear that someone is dead, it gets me thinking deeply about what will end my life. Is it some sickness, accident, or suicide? Well, I don’t know. Whatever it is, my prayer is when the call comes, I need to have my funeral cover fully insured. It’s sad when you are gone and not prepared for that time especially when you are in the Diaspora.

Repatriation of a deceased body is pretty expensive and it’s so sad when you leave the entire burden to your loved ones. Of course, you will be gone but let people celebrate you till the very last second of your existence. Don’t let them curse you under their breaths for not being organised. They can flood their statuses with MHDSRIEP messages but deep inside mad at you for not preparing for this day yet you knew it would come.

Where I come from, it’s taboo to talk about death but then it’s not a secret. Let us be conscious of this certainty because we are all going to die. Be cautious of your lifestyle and save yourself from self-inflicted sicknesses.

As I write this, I am mourning a brother who died of liver cirrhosis. He chose to be an alcohol and smoking addict till his liver was corroded. All he left with us are memories of his uncontrollable drinking habits. May his soul rest in eternal peace. Alcohol is not bad, but we gotta drink responsibly.

It is what it is…

Change begins with you

Dare to change and make a difference

As I continue celebrating my third decade on earth and my birthday month, I thought I should write about change. Change is a process that many of us are not flexible with. Personally, I struggle with changes. If I set my mind on something, it must go the way I have pictured it in my mind. There is no grey for me, its either black or white. This has taken a toll on my emotional well being because I get so much devastated and frustrated when faced with changes. Eventually, I adapt and adjust but after so much self-negotiations and analysis.

This is the right time to change for you


Every January of each new year, we are so much hyped talking of resolutions and new beginnings. How many of us have really followed through the change pattern? I will speak for myself, I have managed to do 50% of that which I have longed to transform in each year, ever since I started jotting down my resolutions when I was 13. So, it means in 16 years excluding this year which has just begun, writing down an average of 10 resolutions a year that gives me 160 resolutions and 80 of them have been ticked off the list for good. I hope I have done my math well because it took me a lot of revision to gain the B that I earned in mathematics at O’ level.

True beauty lies in transformation


My transformation rate hasn’t been so bad, I suppose. I strongly feel I need to up it to a 100% from this season going upwards. For 2022, I got 12 resolutions on my list which I have converted to smart goals. I strongly believe, I will be ticking all of them off the list because for the first time, I finally created my vision board and stuck it where I clearly see it and be reminded that I am on a goal-fulfilling mission. I am equipped with my change tools and everyday when I wake up, I remind myself that I need the change as I focus on my theme #METAMORPHOSIC 30. I am ready to show my beautiful wings from the ugly caterpillar that I have been for the past years.

Becoming a beautiful butterfly

Change is a process which requires your commitment to pull through. Set it in your mind, put it down in black and white, remind yourself constantly that you are meant to change and bound to. Its never too late to be that change you want to be. Even if you experience some relapses on your way to change, pick yourself up and continue. You only fail yourself if you quit evolving. The world will surely be a better place if we all yearn to be our better then best versions of us.

Yes, it’s a must to change!

Workout blues

A journey of a thousand miles begin with one step

Walkathon or Marathon? Walkathon for me. I been thinking of burning some calories and engaged Kev to be my fitness trainer. Kev is an athlete who can do marathons. Once ran the Jo’burg District 11 School Athletics Competition and came out on the 3rd position. At times I lack consistence in what I do so, engaging someone to take me through the losing weight journey has been the game plan. The goal is to get to the dream weight and maintain it. I am just 5kg more of the excess weight that I need to get rid of.


Endurance is the word that kept ringing in my mind as I jogged. Kev set 4km for me on day one which I felt was too much for this body that has never been used to excessive workouts. I am so much used to my 15-20 minutes daily routines which I quickly abort each time I feel strained. On this day, I rued why I engaged Kev, he kept on pushing me to run even when I complained every part of me hurts. On 1.6km peg, I couldn’t take it any longer, stopped running and started complaining. Kev then ordered we go back home if its too much for me. He emphasised all the pain I felt was in my mind but well y’all know pain demands to be felt. We walked a kilometre arguing as he kept reminding me that losing weight is my goal and that I was doing it for me not him. That much I knew very well but couldn’t take it, so he then gave an ultimatum that if I quit now then he won’t coach me.


I knew how much I needed this so had to agree to take the jog again. This time around I was more loyal. All I kept in my mind is how much I conquered the 7 hours 25 minutes of labour when I gave birth. That is so far the worst pain ever, but this jog was closer to it. I took up about 2 more km without resting and I couldn’t carry on. This time I was now too drained to talk. Kev started the long talk again on how much I wasn’t going to make it if I wanted to remain in my comfort zone. My poor body couldn’t take it anymore. I felt excruciating pain all over my body and I inhaled dust which triggered some allergy. I couldn’t stop sneezing and my left nostril got runny. Without listening to the trainer, I started walking and shut myself from all he said. Finally, we got home and all I needed was to write because the pain that I felt made me long to write and stick to my writing.


But then I know I am not done yet; I really need to endure this till the end. Of course, you may give me some tips on how to lose weight without working out. It will really help because I need this killer body in my thirties.

Knowing yourself

Oops, I have archived some of my content because there are some characters I had written about without their consent. As a writer, there are some ethics and code of conduct to be followed regardless the fact that it is a free will. They asked and I listened so, beloved readers stay here and you will feel the stories in the near future when they allow me to share. I know one day, they will allow me to publish and share with you all. Of course, I don’t live for people but I live around people so, if my actions are going to break a soul then I need to think if it is really worth it. Grateful, I still have a conscience.

There is an interesting subject that has given me sleepless nights. I keep holding myself back and telling myself am not qualified enough to talk about it. But well, the inner voice kept nudging me to grab a pen and write that which I understand from experience, research and testimonials from other people. The moment I heed to this call, I discovered that I actually understand a little much more than I thought. So, we are talking about knowing you. How much do you know yourself?

When I was trying to figure out how to answer this question, Google directed me to the Johari Window which is a tool that was invented by two Psychologists, Joseph Luft and Harry Ingham in 1955. This is a self-awareness tool which helps one to understand themselves and the necessary human interaction that results from knowing who we are. As I observed this four panelled window, I realised they are things which we know and do not know about ourselves yet others do.

The Johari Window


In simple terms this tool explains 3 things:
❤️How much you know yourself
❤️How much you share about yourself with others
❤️How much others know you
If you are more self-aware, the windows to the left tend to be wider, than those to the right. This is because when you understand something, you would want to share with others. Tabitha is inquisitive, that’s one thing she understands so well about herself. So, whenever she is around people, she tends to be asking a lot of questions hence people around her know well about this trait in her. If you are less self-aware, the windows to the right tend to be wider. This is because people tend to come up with narratives of who they think you are. For the greater part of my childhood I have been a very quiet person which at most has been mistaken for foolishness. People labelled what they felt they understood about me and somehow I was forced to believe it because by then I didn’t understand myself.


It has taken me many years to get to understand myself and as I write I am still learning more about me. So, it’s never too late to tap into self-awareness. There is so much in ourselves that when you get to understand it all, you will understand what the Holy Book meant when it said we are mini gods. Just give yourself sometime to figure out who you are and enjoy the benefits of being human.

Till we meet next time, just take time to dig deeper into yourself!

My dilemma

In his handwriting
Lies can be detected
He writes them so amicably
“Babe, I have a breakdown so coming home a bit late”
Heaven knows the breakdown is right in front of Maria’s homestead
And he is busy looking for the tools box right under her blankets 🤦🏾‍♀️
Both naked and sweating profusely
The search for the tools is that much of an activity
Once satiated, just after midnight
He knocks at the door
Finally, he is home
I been praying that he is safe and arrives on time
Waiting for him to offer me those conjugal rights
Well, his first statement makes me furious,
“Oh babe, I need to change this car, its now a pain. Imagine a whole night trying to fix it by the roadside.”
He doesnt even look the part
Instead of some black grease stains on his clothes
He has some brownish and reddish stains
I look at him from head to toe
And feel nauseated
He is as disgusting as his lies
The sexual hunger disappears
Anyway its not like Maria has left anything for me 🤦🏾‍♀️
I have had such moments before
It hurts when you get to beg for it
And someone gives excuses
I just tell him where his food is and head back to curl under my blankies
He notices, I picked his lies
But well he is now used to the attitude so he just murmurs under his breathe,
“Thanks mai mwana”
In a tone that shows, he is not even going to look at the food
Maria has quenched all his thirst
He joins me in bed
And all I smell is that feminine scent
Hell no, the night will be a little longer
I curl myself at the far edge of the bed
He cares not, in a few seconds I hear him snore like a pig
I toss and turn
Till the cock crows
Its a new day
I wake up to serve him
Waiting on the next chapter of his shenanigans
Thank God, my mama taught me well
Never to fight him
But well the social media streets are teaching me otherwise
And am getting fed up by each second
Its only one day
I will burst because I have bottled up a lot
So, help me Lord

It must come to an end!

I had a future that I dreamt of
Like any other girl,
Never did I only want to be a wife and a mother,
But because of some church doctrine,
At 14 they gave me to a man as the 4th wife
Young I was, but that they never saw
Just because nature showed I was ready to conceive,
They termed me mature,
I became his fresh feast,
He devoured all my innocence,
Took away my pride,
Nine months, I carried the bulging belly,
Till the day to deliver my bundle of joy,
Did I know how to nurse a child?
I still needed to be nursed too,
Well, the future was yet to teach me that,
But I lost it, before I got there,
Labour pangs hit me so hard,
At least I needed some proper health care,
But they took me to the shrine,
Where the midwives gambled with my life,
Oxytocin played its role
At the same time they were rubbing my throat with salt and vinegar
Whilst pouring paraffin in my nose,
It was too much for my little soul,
I failed to take it in,
The angel of death took heed to my call,
I gave up, leaving my son,
Thank Heavens it was a son,
He will not go through what I went through,
I pray he will be the reason
This girl child abuse comes to an end,
My soul wails for change,
No girl deserves to go through this,
Together we can make a difference
For a better future.

JusticeforMemo

Childmarriagesmustfall

Hakuna mwana mai asiri mahumbwe

Juzi (jersey)


A week ago I saw the video of the song Juzi by Kae Chaps on a friend’s status and I commented on it. The emotion the guy expressed really hit me on the right spot. What a great artist he is! I saw pure talent and passion in the whole piece. Maybe he has been heart broken for real, then I would love to see the chic and the type of jersey she left that’s disturbing someone’s son’s peace 😂. Currently the song had been trending on social media with all sorts of comments and his Youtube channel got a lot of views thats moola on his end. See, its easy to make money. A heartbreak can be some source of income, if he was heartbroken indeed 😂😂😂.


Most of us can relate to such scenarios when you break up and dont know what to do with the belongings of your ex. I am one person who gives away the stuff, like everything. My goal is to destroy all memories of him but then its not that easy especially when you shared fond memories together. Like how Kae Chaps put it across, its just a matter of time, eventually we forget.

Ooops someone’s son left his juzi in my jungle, am gonna send him the video 😂 but for me harisi kundishaisa rugare coz I dont even know where I put it. His friend actually texted telling me that he was sent to collect the juzi 🙄, so am like, ” are you the one who left it“. I might as well sell it to compensate for my time he wasted 😂. Apa am the one who left, we were way two different people and nothing proper would ever suffice from us. Well its always complicated.

Dreadlocked not Rastafarian

After I got pregnant in June 2018, my life changed drastically. I went through a lot of trauma at times I would wish the angel of death would visit me and put an end to my miserable life. Alas, it was never to be, God was indeed polishing me up to be the strong and courageous woman I am today. Baby daddy rejected me the moment I announced the news of the baby to him, he told me clearly that he neither wanted me nor the baby. The only solution he offered to me was abort but well, I chose not to. With or without him, I vowed to take care of my baby but it hasn’t been any easy journey. Good thing is, it is getting easier with time.

As I went through this hurdle, I thought of doing something different with myself, so I chose having dreadlocks 😊. On the 31st of December 2018, I went to get the wax locks and I promised myself to let them grow and never cut them before the time I set to cut them. Before the locks, mood changes would get me changing hairstyles but this time, I promised myself to see my hair grow without limiting it. It indeed is pure bliss watching the locks get longer and longer. Each stage gets me stronger and gives me a sense of fulfilment. I always tell my friends that I wanna cut them at 40, God willing, yea I wanna go bald at 40 😂.

There are times I feel terribly down and think of cutting the locks but I then think of why I had them in the first place and all I can do is put those thoughts at the back of my mind. I love my dreadlocks so much, they are one of the best things in my life. Being dreadlocked makes you a friend to allbody but well, I don’t like it when they all feel entitled to call me Rasta. One of these days I’m just going to print T-shirts emblazoned, “I got dreadlocks not rasta🤣”. I am no Rastafarian, I love my meat like crazy and there is no spiritual thing whatsoever about my locks, it’s just a hairstyle that I chose as therapy for the trauma I faced on my journey of carrying an unplanned pregnancy. Much love to my daughter, Penda, she indeed is my all.

Poverty versus the pandemic

I woke up to find water coming out of the taps after almost a week of a dry spell. With these 30 days of lockdown, you wonder if we can totally stay at home 🤔🤦🏾‍♀️, because its either you are by the shops queing for grocery supplements or by the borehole topping up your water reserves. Mantaining the Covid regulations still seem like a fallacy to an average Zimbabwean.

So, as I was fetching water, a childhood memory struck me 😊. It was year end in 1999 and I was seven by then. My older siblings, Tari and Tina were having a conversation on the year to come. I listened attentively as they narrated about something called the millenium bug which was meant to come and destroy the world at the beginning of the year 2000. Tina expressed it in as much scary manner as possible for a 7-year old imagination. Being the cry baby I was, I started crying because I was super scared of dying at such a tender age. I remember vividly both of them laughing hillariously at me but it was such a devastating moment on my end.

Following the news on Coronavirus on various social media platforms, I sense the millenium bug moments in most people’s lives. The only difference now is Covid is real and people are dying daily from it. Its so heart-rending 😔. In a country like this we only hope and pray that it spares us because staying indoors seem pretty difficult. We are trying to balance between not dying from poverty and not dying from the virus. Most families survive from hand to mouth so the math seem a lot more difficult to balance. Lord have mercy on us. Amen.

Yesterday I had a conversation with a good friend of mine, Kue, she was telling me she needs to stay at home as much as possible because she has 2 or 3 relatives who have succumbed to this new strain of Covid. May their souls rest in eternal peace. This was amidst some business conversation were I needed her availability. I calmly told her, “its okay, lemme take the risk.” She lovingly tried to convince me to stay put but I responded, “what if I dont die?” Get me right, I am not reckless about my life, I wanna live and see my Penda age, God willingly. Each time I decide to go out, it has to be for a genuine cause and I make sure I mask up, sanitise all the way through and mantain social distance as much as possible though this is pretty hard in my motherland.

I am trying to strike a balance between poverty and this pandemic. I have a daughter to raise so I made Kue understand how much that call from Gran ma depresses me when she gets to notify that Penda’s supplies are running out. The feeling somehow equals the Covid pain 🤦🏾‍♀️, it suffocates me. To ease the pain, I am holding on to my faith and keep on praying for the best. I might already have the virus in my system thus still holding on to the statistics that of the 100% infected, 80% will show mild symptoms and heal without much serious attention, 15% will get hospitalized and 5% will die. I still stand to be corrected if am wrong, dear readers. The statistics might have changed without me knowing 😉.

One thing for certain, these coronavirus strains are not going to end now but will surely come to pass some day. We gotta brace up for this new normal and work on our adaptability mechanisms. I choose not to live in fear, I just wanna make the most of my life in the safest manner possible. Around social media there is a lot of conspiracy theories on this pandemic so I have chosen not to take in eveything that comes my way. Usually I question credibility because I do not want to live in fear of what I dont understand. I keep on raising my faith so high and pray that this comes to pass earlier than we can ever imagine.

Lets keep on staying safe, we have survived the Covid 19 and am hearing we now have the Covid 21, may it spare us too.

A year more added to me

The story of my life began 29 years ago, this one successful sperm made it on the race to fuse with one special ovum. It took my mum 8 months to deliver me into this world, a pre-term I was. In our Shona culture they said, 8-month pre-terms had low survival chances compared to other pre-terms born earlier. This is still a mystery, I havent understood but well I am a living testimony. If it was so true that my survival chances were slim, I became a survivor since day one. Indeed God knew me before He formed me in my mum’s womb.

For these and many other blessings I thank
you Lord…

Today marks my 29th chapter, the ending to my 20’s series. It just calls for more wine 🥂😂. I woke up to reflect on how my 20’s have been like. Well these have been crazier than my teens 😂. I grew older, had bigger challenges, made many more mistakes, fell so many times but here I am today rejoicing in it all. All the happenings sharpened me to the super woman I am today. I took lessons from every mistake I made, I rose when I fell, I allowed pain to take its course for out of it I have brought forth fruit, every challenge made me stronger. My faith has helped me, conquer it all for in God I trust.

My Chapter 29 theme

This 29th chapter, I just wanna make it so special by letting the fruits of the Holy Spirit (Gal 5.22-23) take lead. Love, Joy, Peace, Forgiveness, Patience, Kindness, Goodness, Gentleness and Self Control is all I shall be exuding from now on. I have surrendered my all unto the Most High God, let Him do what only He can do with my life…

🥂To more life.
🥂 To more success.
🥂 To more wine.