Tabitha is a single mom, how she became one is a story for another day. Last night I dreamt of my baby daddy, which is very unusual. Back then when we were still love birds, when one of us dreamt of the other it meant the other party was thinking of them. That’s how connected we were. On this particular day it felt so awkward as I believed the connection was dead. Ever since the baby drama happened, I had such dreams only once in a while but funny thing is no matter how bad I felt he treated me, in my dreams he was always sweet and caring. In dreamland we understand each other and he answers positively to all my questions yet in real life we don’t even say a word to each other.
I woke up trying to put head and tail to the dream, pondering if he could be missing me. Anyway I couldn’t get closure so I dumped the thought at the back of my mind. Hunger pangs got me out of bed and as I started preparing my breakfast, a message got into my Whatsapp and it was an unsaved number. I checked the display picture to see if it was anyone I know and was mesmerised to see Baby Daddy and Current Wife. My heart skipped a bit, how could this happen after my dream? So, I hi’ed back to the text wondering what’s up. It was Current Wife who had thought of me on this day. She took a long time typing and my heart was beating fast as thoughts were rushing in my mind. Finally this was it;
[5/6, 10:54] Current Wife: hi
[5/6, 10:54] Baby Mama: Hi
[5/6, 10:55] Current Wife: its CW i noticed you sent me a friend request on facebook and you part of the pple that follow me …what is that u want from me
[5/6, 11:01] Baby Mama: Oookay, your name kept showing on pple hu can be my friends so i just clicked the button. But thats optional n if u aint cool with that you dont respond like u have done. On the following aspect i dont know, i could have just clicked the button unknowingly.
There is nothing that I would want from you dear. Lol am just like any other pson who could send you a friendship request regardless of the fact that am raising your hubby’s child which was just fate.
To summarise our mini chat there, she wanted to know why I had sent her a friend request on Facebook. Well, her name kept popping up on people I may know so a couple of weeks ago I just clicked the send request button without any evil intention whatsoever. She never responded to it, which was no big deal at all. What got me puzzled was, did she see it on this particular morning or she just wanted a chat with me? Her question, “what do you want from me?”, meant a thousand things to me.
So dear readers, help me here;
1.) Was Baby Mama wrong for sending the friend request to Current Wife?
2.) Was it necessary for Current Wife to app Baby Mama asking what she wanted from her?
Your honest opinions will help me understand if my sentiments are right and it will take us to how our conversation ended.
Tales Of Tabitha 
I think perhaps sending the friend request was a little bit creepy. LOL That’s if y’all don’t speak at all. Spiritualy, I do not believe in coincidences. Telepathy maybe ?
The circumstance is of the current wife and baby mama situation are unclear in the story so I have no idea what the history is. There is no harm for the sake of your child to have a civil relationship to limit the drama. She might bear your daughter’s siblings. It’s bigger than all of you. So onward Christian soldier. It will be well.
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Thanks dear for the feedback and you are right we gotta be at peace for the sake of the baby.
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Your real life relationship is not strong enough to go virtual….. Baby momma is not ready for a blended family as yet.
BM is usually a threat to CW until she gets married. So she will always think you have sinister plans
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It’s a very tricky one in my opinion. You were very courageous to send the friend request. I personally probably wouldn’t have. I assume this guy hurt you badly and sending a friend request to his wife means you start seeing everything their family is up to showing up in your newsfeed. Personally I really wouldn’t want to know what is happening in their lives. It helps with closure and move on from the past.
On current wife’s response, if she wasn’t interested she could have declined without having to app you.
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She was right to ask you infact she did the mature thing of trying to understand the reason why you want to engage with her on facebook. Its important to know if its genuine or you just want to monitor her life. Your relationship with her is already complicated so i would not have responded to her explaining why you clicked the first request. If you are honest with yourself it was not just a whim and even if it was your subconscious reaction there is a reason for it which you need to explain. If your intentions were good then i want to assume that it is actually noble to have a relationship with the current wife so that in the future you can have discussions about the child well-being. If you had to do it again I would say do not send a friend request . Call her ask to speak with her and explain why you need to have a relationship with her. If you do not agree to have a relationship then you stop following her on FB and you live seperate lives. She is still entitled to it even though she is entwined with your former lover.
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